Gengar's Myth

Since my breakup last fall, my goals have been to become truly independent from my parents (financially stable, move out, etc.) and build a career. The two go hand in hand, of course. I have wanted a “career” since I graduated college-to feel as though I am a part of something that is growing and evolving, to grow and evolve along with it.

After my breakup I didn’t want to date anybody, and was, in fact, rather afraid of the idea of even being romantically interested in someone because I felt I would be distracted. I felt I might lose sight of what was a large motivational factor in ending my relationship-after all, I felt somewhat trapped during it and I cannot help but blame him a little even though it’s ultimately my motivation. I still feel that way, if I’m being honest. I know what I want within the next three years; what is the point of getting attached to someone if I intend to move away?

Anyways, a friend has decided that she would like to set me up with someone. Someone who is “nerdy like me” and is “cute” and if I would just agree to meet with him, that everything will “work itself out.” She knows I am not interested; I currently have a flirtation going on with someone, and even though that is stressful at times, it’s also just about perfect for where I am in life. I get attention, he gets attention, but there are no heavy relationship undercurrents. I like him quite a bit and would probably pursue that route if it were possible, but it isn’t at the current moment, so I enjoy it for what it is.

But, I do not understand why people insist on trying to set people up with other people. Personally I find it a little insulting and it causes me to be SUPER cautious if I am to meet that person. I don’t know why, exactly…I’ve always been that way. But, if you mention it to me, and I say no thanks, what makes you think that badgering me is going to change my mind? I’ll just dig in my heels. Finally, what is the point? If someone else is in my head, there is no room for anyone else. Therefore, there is no point in trying. Maybe my mind is a little wacky 🙂

What do you think about being set up/ setting people up?